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July 20, 2006

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Zee

Nikole, that must have been so awful to go through. And it must have been almost as hard to write down. But it's good to get it out and to start slowly healing emotionally as well as physically.

I remember, after my miscarriage, just wanting everything that no longer belonged in to get out--as much as it broke my heart. I wanted the bleeding to stop, and as you said, I just wanted to feel "normal" again.

I'm sending you a sympathetic hug and the hope that things get back on track soon. Lingering in that "in between" state can really wear you down, so I hope your time there is up soon.

Womb in waiting

God, NIkole, your entry, it is a written reminder of my d&c - exact account - horrific. Im so sorry you went thru that. After my d&c, I wandered whether i should have left my body to miscarry naturally. i too had been warned it would be excruciating pain but what i endured was excruciating pain so who knows....i so hope that is the very last d&c you ever have. I also hope your body recovers soon & your psyche & the rest of you start to heal & heal well. Im thinking of you x

Michelle

Nikole I'm so sorry that you had to endure that pain. I hope your body returns to normal soon. The most days I ever bled during/after a miscarriage was 24, and I remember being a bit freaked out and just wishing it would end. I hope it ends soon.

Jill

Thanks for sharing this story, Nikole. You described everything so well. I am terribly sorry that you had to go through such physical and emotional pain. I understand the pain; as you know, my latest D&C experience was very similar. I wish that no woman had to deal with losing a baby, but I am thankful that those of us who have are not alone and can share our experiences and comfort one another.

Heather L.

Thank you for your account of "the procedure"... I was crying when I read it...as i am due for my first "procedure". It was probably good that i read it though, as now i know what to expect. I am very thankful that i found your blog. thank you.

Sending you hugs.

rockmamainwaiting

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sure it resonates stongly with all of us who have go through the agony of a miscarriage. I'm so sorry that your D&C experience was so very awful.

Sending you lots of healing vibes.

stephanie

Nikole-How I wish this had been different for you.

I have always wondered what it is like to be the partner of the person having the D&C. After 3, i know what to expect...but I always wonder what my husband is doing and thinking as he waits for the DR to come out and let him know it is OK.

I hope the spotting/bleeding ends soon. Wishing you all the best~~~~~

Serenity

My heart is breaking for you, Nikole - this "procedure" is painful on so many levels. I am so so SO sorry you had to go through that. And I hope with all my heart that you never have to experience that again.

Love to you.

Watson

Dear, sweet Nikole -

I hope that in some way writing down your story helps you heal. I was crying throughout your story, and my heart goes out to you now. I am so sorry that you had to experience this.

I am sending you hugs, and good energy with the hope that you feel better soon, on every level.

Take care of yourself.

Kath

Dear Nikole, that was so sad, and brought back so much. I had those awful intestinal cramps too, on waking up from my second "procedure," and that was the worst -- I was lying there begging for them to let me get up to use the bathroom, but they insisted on my using a bedpan. I cried and whined until they had pity on me, probably an hour later -- and then nothing came. Just another little indignity heaped on to the general nightmare...

I've just caught up on your last posts -- I'm so sorry I've been out of touch so long. I hope things become clearer for you soon, and that you figure out what you want to do with work and school. It's so hard to process all that amidst the grief, isn't it? On the one hand grief gives you great clarity about what's important, but on the other it clouds your thinking... Anyway, I'm so glad your husband is there for you like that. It's so important.

Deborah

Thanks for sharing. You are a very strong woman! I did not have a d&c but your experience was similiar to mine. All I can say is thank goodness for pain pills and a comfy bed. I'm glad that you are recovering well. I'm sure that having this blog helps you as well as others.

skm

Nikole,

You are so brave and kind to relive that again in order to benefit others. Thank you. I hope you never, ever have to go through it again.

Amber

It's so graphically real Nikole. Thank you so much for sharing this intensely personl moment.
And this is exactly why I don't want to have it done. Yet, here I am almost 3 months post miscarriage, and my body is not cooperating on getting back to normal, so I wait for the doc to call me to schedule my "procedure". Joy.....

Sara

Yes, it is so hard to feel normal before that first period. I really hope you get to feel normal soon.

It is interesting to me how much docs differ on their opinions of "the procedure." The ER doc that informed me of my U/S results practically forbid me to have a D&C, giving a speech (practically a rant) on how much better it is for the body to handle m/c naturally. I know people, though, that were scheduled for D&C without even discussing the possibility of having a natural m/c.

Natural m/c at 10 weeks along was VERY painful for me, the worst pain I have ever experienced, and it dragged out over weeks. From reading your detailed account and some other blogs, I see that D&C also brings along plenty of pain. In my case, there was no embryo and it was my first, so karotyping was not an issue. But, "the procedure" seems necessary when you want some answers. I am so sorry you had to go through it, though.

Thank you for sharing all the gory details. When women actually talk about these things, others can actually get an idea of what to expect. When no one talks about these experiences, m/c is all the more terrifying.

thalia

The intestinal pain, and the pain a week after sounds very like what happened to me, although yours sounds worse. I'm so sorry you had such a tough time. I think sharing it is a great idea - prepare other people, get that pain out there.

When will you get your karyotype results?

Amy

Gosh, Nikole, I wept reading this entry. I've had 3 miscarriages, but never a D&C. I'm so sorry you had to endure that. Know what's interesting though -- I too became obsessed with cleaning my house after my miscarriages. Weird, huh?

sube

Sigh. That brought it all back. A similar thing happened to me -- 5 days or so after the D&C was when I got the worst of the cramping. I don't think I had it as bad as you, though. I hate that any of us have to go through this.

baggage

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. I have to have a D&C combined with a laproscopy in a few weeks. I have never been pregnant but my uterus lining is too thick and I have to have a D&C. Thank you for explaining what you went through.

Kelly

I just happened upon your site by accident and was compelled to read your blog. How sad and beautiful. I too had a D&C...mine was in November 2002 right before Thanksgiving. It was my first pregnancy and it was quite early in the pregnancy but I am convinced that the stage of your pregnancy does not necessarily determine the depth of your agony. I didn't handle it as well as some of my friends have. I was a mess. Your account of your D&C is absolutely the same as mine. and what a blessing it will be to some women who is terrified and going in for one to read something like what you wrote to somewhat prepare her.

It was all just the most painful thing I have ever ever gone through and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. so my heart and my prayers go out to you, my sister...stranger on the internet. I know this blog is old and my experience is 4 and a half years ago, but I am grateful to find this. You will provide healing for countless women with your candor.

God Bless!!!!

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